I find it interesting that we as human beings struggle to find deep connections with others. We put forth effort to find relationships to enhance our lives. If we are lucky enough, we find a handful of people that truly fit the role (or at least we think so). Family, friends, "significant others." What sucks is when those same relationships end up being the ones that hurt us most.
For this scenario, imagine boy meets girl. They get along, everything seems right. Then, maybe one of them falters, maybe not, but something happens that the relationship as it was ends. Both of them seem to try to hold on to something that still fills a part of their lives. Maybe one is holding on more than the other. Sometimes holding on works, but when it doesn't, it really doesn't. If they are lucky enough, they move forward with a different take on the relationship. If not, one or the other or both are left with something that just hurts.
I think I have written before about learning to try and let go of things that maybe we should not hold on to. But how do we figure that out? What part of us tries to hold on so hard that we just force ourselves into a worse place? When does holding on become toxic?
I have always been the one to want to make things right for people, and seeing this struggle is difficult. This is partially because I can both empathize and sympathize I suppose. A side but related note is this past weekend I learned that empathy was my number one strength in StrengthsQuest. It made me laugh how much that was true. But because of this, maybe I struggle more with the issue at hand. Maybe I will have more thoughts later...
Disclaimer: This post is not just about one person but more a combination of observations and experiences. Just a chance to get out some thoughts on the subject. ^_^
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